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You say you have a strong bond — and I do not doubt you feel that — but how strong is his bond to you if he continues to see you only in secret and keeps living with another woman. I have worked with my coworker for 12 years and I have been married for 11 yrs to my husband. Out of those 12 yrs my coworker and i have had a relationship for 5 yrs.
The problem is that I have fallen in love with my coworker. We have been through it all together. But my husband is the perfect man and has not done anything wrong. Jane, I have asked Joe to give you some feedback on this post. Something that I would offer — think about your belief and value system. If your belief and value system says that your marriage commitment it important and that you would not want to break this commitment that you made before God, friends and family, then your choice is clear.
We understand that acting on that belief and value system is easier said than done. If you would like us to help without judgement , feel free to give us a call at One of the hardest, yet most crucial, aspects of life we learn is that you sometimes have to let go of one thing to have another. If you continue as you are now, you run the risk of losing both men.
Things like that can go on for a while but eventually some little error brings it all to light and then things get bad quickly. If a part of you thinks that would make things easier because if your husband divorced you, you could be with your coworker, think again. That guilt can quickly erode the positive emotions. Also, having a few years of relationship that was clandestine carries its own sort of intrigue that immediately ceases when the other person gets divorced.
I urge you to make a life choice consistent with who you really are — consistent with what you believe and value.
Take a look at this new program Joe developed to help someone in your situation. We understand and believe this can give you some peace and hope going forward. I have cheated on my wife with one night stands and now she is in love with someone else she recently met. She tells me that he understand her, listens to her and is just a good person. She filed fit divorce two months ago but we decided to work on it but she finally decided she was done.
What can I do? My heart breaks for you. The situation you describe is much more than I can address here in a few short paragraphs. As you know, your situation is bad. However, it is not necessarily hopeless. Is there anyone that your wife respects who is willing to intervene and ask her to consider saving her marriage. If so, please ask them to do so.
Then find a very, very good counselor that your wife will trust and the two of you can work with. If your wife is willing to make only a brief effort and will not commit to seeing a therapist, consider our Marriage Helper workshop.
You can find it here http: Nothing about that makes you attractive. Be the man she fell in love with. He was divorced with 2 kids. We had twins together. Right before we married he had an affair. I believe it happened before.
Then I became a slave in the house and overworked with 2 jobs to keep up with his child support and alimony. He was very selfish. I met someone 2 years ago. I am a caretaker.
But I fell for the man inside of the mess. My husband is the opposite but has clingy issues and we never agree on things.
I know if i leave him I will end up with a mess. We understand that there is something that has kept you with this man when it seems he is not necessarily your type.
If you want to better understand your situation and the appropriate steps you can take to end this relationship and fall in love with your husband again I will give you two options we have for couples like the two of you:.
You can find more information here — http: If you are not able to join us for one of the workshops, we also have a new five part video series called Decision Point for spouses who have been unfaithful. You can find out more about this here — http: It also can be a bad thing, as you already know. When it became clear that he is selfish and that you had to take care of all the housework and hold two jobs just so he could pay alimony, you allowed that to occur.
When you met the new man, you see the troubles of his past and say that you cannot break it off because of your caretaker nature.
Yet, you say that the reason you cannot break it off with him is because you feel a need to take care of him. It seems that you suspect that your major attraction to the new man is not just to find freedom from what you have, but perhaps another chance to rescue another troubled man. BUT, you already sense that his past struggles may not mean freedom at all.
It may be that you move from the proverbial frying pan into the fire. It almost seems as if you need to prove your worthiness or your right to be loved by having someone who needs you to take care of them. If you continue in that vein, your life is likely going to be one miserable relationship after another. If you want to learn to love well, and to be loved in a way that brings true happiness, learn first to love yourself.
When you learn to love you, you very likely will stand up to your current selfish husband and be strong enough to stop working two jobs and no longer be a slave to support his selfishness.
You already know his weaknesses and strengths. You see mostly the good in the new man, yet your statements indicate that there is a nagging in the back of your brain that being with him would present another set of problems that may be worse than what you have now.
Rather than hoping the new relationship will help you find happiness, I strongly urge you to move away from that man — yes, I know it will be difficult and that you are so much needing affirmation that you would feel great pain if you stop seeing him — and find the help to get you where you need to be with yourself.
Though I am not a prophet, I fear that if you continue with the new lover, your self-esteem and need to feel loved for who you are rather than what you do will become even a greater problem and happiness will elude you for years to come. When you find the way to love yourself — truly love you in a good way — you can then do what it takes to make your current marriage be what it should be.
I married young, and we are almost to year five. Recently, another woman has captured my heart. Right now, the latter relationship is platonic; flirtatious at most. But it may be headed toward more. On the other hand, I want children and my wife, at bottom, does not. This other woman does, and just today we looked longingly together at another happy family. If you do not find a way to resolve that, the underlying resentment can and usually does build to a level that can destroy a relationship and leave each person bitter.
You want to leave her because you have allowed yourself to fall in love with another woman. Your friendship deepened as you gradually began to share more about your lives, your dreams, your fears, and even those things about yourselves that hardly anyone else knows about.
At some point you began to feel that she understood you like no one ever has…that you can talk to her about anything…that the connection you two have is beyond what most people ever have and that it may be that no one else has ever felt the way you do about each other.
Now things that are valid — such as your differences about children — have become so much larger and stronger motivations to you than they were even before. They loom so big that you cannot imagine staying with your wife.
What you wanted before from her is now available from your lover. The beliefs and values that kept you with your spouse are fading and your desire to be with your lover is growing stronger at a rapid and amazing rate.
If you leave your wife and go with your lover, the intensity that you feel now — the emotions that both you and she expect to last happily ever after — will eventually fade. You can still care about each other, but the amazing sensations you feel now will inevitably erode into something different.
When finally that happens, you will see that she is flawed as well. You will look back on the beliefs and values that you once held dear that you violated to have her. And, if you are like the vast majority, you will come to regret your abandoning what you once held dear.
You definitely have a problem with your wife that needs to be resolved. These are two separate problems. To be able to face the future with high regard for yourself, solve your problems with your wife. After you deal with that, then make a decision about your lover. As long as you are putting your lover first, you cannot make a decision about your lover that you will be happy about ten years from now. Absolutely brilliant analysis of the situation. You keep saying the feelings in the primary relationship are more important than those in the second relationship.
I agree with you on this, I understand that marriage is an important commitment. I understand that some people believe marriage to be final and sacred. I understand that we seek the things we feel we are missing, that we want to feel complete. But feelings are feelings, and I dont believe a marriage trumps the heart.
It wants what it wants. They keep saying that we are only focusing on the flaws of our spouse and the things we love about the new person. I understand that everyone has flaws, everyone! But when you know in your heart and soul that this new person you met has touched you so deeply, you love the flaws as well, in my case of course.
I already decided, maybe evn before it got so serious. Be an adult and make a decision. Live with the consequences of your actions. You just described what I am going through exactly. This has helped me tremendously. The situation sucks, because the love is very real. Hey Joe, I love that it seems you seen your affair as a big nono….
Sam, while it is true that many relationships do begin with limerence, the real issue here is whether or not you have a right to the person that you are in limerence with. If two people are single, fall in love, and go through limerence, that is normal.
Even when two people have a right to each other, limerence fades. Biologically and chemically, it has to. If someone follows their feelings and betrays their integrity, they change who they are as a person.
They will turn into a person that they no longer like. My marriage of 29 years has never been the marriage that I dreamed of. I find myself to be more of a father-figure to my wife than that of a husband. I have never liked this role. My wife and I have had many discussions about this before. For all these years, I have just accepted the way things are. I met a lady online 8 months ago. She seemed really nice and intelligent.
We have been really good friends and can talk about anything. We have shared so much between us and it has turned out to be a beautiful friendship. For that, I am very grateful!
She seems to be a perfect match for me, and she is everything that my wife is not. We are supposed to meet in person for a few drinks soon. I am very afraid of what can happen when we actually meet.
I can see how this situation could go really bad, really fast. I have to admit that I am torn right now, not knowing what to do. Should I pursue my happiness with this other person or should I stay in this less than adequate marriage and acknowledge the fact that it is all just a dream.
The temptation is there. I never thought it was possible, certainly not possible for me. But here I am. I have been married for ten years. My husband and I have had many issues in our marriage.
For the last three years I have connected with a man I met when I was 15 years old. I talk to him everyday on fb. I have fallen madly in love with him.
He lives in Boston and me Toronto. I often fall asleep thinking of him. I feel so stuck and just want to cry. Im married for 16 years. I dont feel a connection to my husband anymore. I got in contact with an old guy friend and I think we have fallen in love. My husband cheated on me 6 months before our marriage although that was years ago. The feelings and connection with my friend is amazing I feel we were meant to be together. My husbands knows of the affair and I have no contact with my friend but its killing me, I miss.
Cant leave my mamarriage because we have financial commitment and a 10 year old daughter.. You may see money, or financial commitments being a part in this, in reality it is an excuse to stay with your husband. Your child together may also be a factor but neither are the issue. First off what led you to reconnect? Was a simple Hey old friend… or did you put yourself in that situation.
Two different things with different purposes. From my perspective it seems as if you have some still untesolved issue with your husband. Either for the infidelity he committed or something else.
Either way though that is yet another excuse you have given yourself to ease the pain that you are committing emotional cheating. Before I would run with a man that was willing to help destroy a marriage, i would try to rekindle those feelings that helped rebuild it after your husband cheated.
Or because in his moment of weakness he knew the regret, and wants to save the marriage. You both should seek help, to cheat on one another, physically or emotionally shows a serious underlying issue. Its really embarrassing to actually say this, but here goes… I have been married to my husband going on 5 years. We were in our upper teens when we got married. Within our first year of marriage he had talked to another woman online and I caught him up in it. I let it go and tried to work it out with him, after all it was just our first year.
So a few months later I got pregnant with our baby girl. I thought everything was getting back to normal.
My trust for him was finally starting to build back up. I found a fake facebook he had created with a fake name, but he told women who he really was. I hacked into the email he had used and seen that he had been talking sexually to multiple women that knew him and I was married. I also found out that the messages dated back to almost a year ago. I let all that go and once again tried to forgive and forget. But my feelings for him were slowly starting to fade it seemed. We recently moved out of town due to a new job he got.
Just in a couple weeks of living in our new town, I was introduced to a friend he had years ago. We hit it off and became good friends. We started talking and im not sure how it came up but we told each other we liked each other. We started eventually texting and he started coming over and just hanging out while my husband was working. Things to physical fast. We talked about our feelings and he knows what had happened in the past with me and my husband. We did end up going all the way but we talked and said that we need to both slow it back down.
I am just so torn on what to do with my marriage. Every kiss and every touch puts thoughts from the past into my head. I wonder everyday if more went on other than what he has told me. I feel out of love with him. Our daughter is 2 now and I feel like if I was to leave it would destroy everything. Our new house and his new job. And his friend ship with the other man. I honestly feel stuck like im obligated to stay. And I feel like of I was to leave I would end up with nothing.
I dont feel pretty anymore with him. This other guy has made me feel so good and he has done everything and said everything that a woman wants to hear.
As of now him and I are just in a friendship but it makes me wonder what would happen if I was to leave my husband. Would I be making a mistake or is this other guy truly the one for me. Is there a way I can message you via e-mail? I am in the same boat and would like to converse with you if I may. I am 30 years old, have been married for 6 years this past July, my husband and I have a beautiful 5 year old.
I came across this site because I am searching for solutions to my problems currently. I met my husband in church, due to the marriage processes in our church, we never had a chance to properly get to know each other better.
So in a space of 7 months we got married. My marriage was averagely good, I fell pregnant on my honeymoon night, so immediately after the wedding I was pregnant. I had my daughter and after that my husband and I were heavily involved in our church ministry. Beginning of last year my husband resigned from work and went back to university to study full time, as a result we do not see each other except for weekends and school holidays.
When he went back to school, I started realising that I married a complete stranger, we had never spent real time together before we got married and with the baby and the ministry we were always busy, so when he went back to school I started realising just how different we were.
I truly am not even show if I love or ever loved him, or my whole marriage was out of family and church pressure. I do not blame anyone because I was old and am responsible for my own choices. Now I have recently met someone, who is the world to me, I do not ever recall being this happy in my life before.
We share the same passions, we laugh together, his presence in my life has changed me. Besides having met someone now, I was already trying to find means of leaving my husband. I feel I am very unfair to him because I really do not love him the way he loves me. I believe that there is someone special out there for him to love him and cherish but that person is not me.
How can I walk away without hurting our daughter, our families, our church. Hi, I am almost in the same position. I have been married for 12 years now. I got married when I was My husband and I are in to church ministry and our parents too. We have 3 beautiful children right now. Im not sure if I love my husband or have I ever love him. Right now im busy trying to find some sort of fulfilment in a lot of things.
Every time I look at him I feel so sorry for him because I feel like im a hypocrite. I am lost I need help. I also came across this site because Im looking for help. My situation is a bit more intense. The catch 22 here is, it is my husband friend as well. We have been seeing each other for 4 years and during that time he has gotten married and had a child.
Even with his union, we still have not stopped seeing each other. He tells me he is in love with me. Not sure if I believe him. As for me all I do is think about him. I think he is the first person I have ever been in love with. I have tried to end it so many times and find myself right back with him days later.
I cry so much over this. Cry over hurting so many people if we ever get caught. Cry over loving him, when all I want is to fall in love with my husband. Three years ago, I caught him texting an ex of his — they texted literally 24 hours a day, for 30 days before I caught him. I stayed with him and I have never held it over his head. At the time, I had become detached from our marriage and was just going through the motions, so I completely understood how he got to the point of reaching out to someone else.
It never went beyond kissing, but I fell for him so fast. We still email and check on one another, provide advice, etc. I ended the marriage. I met my now spouse a few months after we separated i felt it was what i needed at the time now being married to her i feel i made a huge mistake and she does not make me feel the way my former spouse made me feel.
My former spouse is not remarried, although she has expressed that she wish things could have been different and would have worked through the prior marriage. Or just end the marriage and be honest with her although i would like a chance with my former spouse i would spend time alone thinking about my life and how quickly things spun out of control.
Have been for two years and now have a child together. I lost my virginity to him and feel like I owe my life to him. As we became friends, I fell more in love with him.
My husband is a good man, but he has a dark past that is starting to shine through finally.. His persona is becoming more violent and inpatient, especially towards our daughter. And when the other guy is around, he spoils my daughter and plays with her!! With never feeling like I was in love but doing what I should do, put up with a lot of crap from my husband- cussing me, lying, n cheating, flirting.
Married for 10 years, mostly unhappy. We have a 7 year old son, and until very recently they barely had a relationship. I met someone this summer and my feelings for him are growing stronger by the day. I want to leave my husband — not for the new man, but for me. I have been here standing by his side through all of it. With his friends and his family I am constantly being thanked and being praised for how strong I am to stand by his side for everything.
Which brings us to a little while ago when in enters someone from my past. Sweetheart has seen me at my worst and even though we were only friends he always made sure I was ok. It was clear right from the day we met that we shared some pretty intense feelings for one another. We never got our shot due to one or both of us being in other relationships.
Eventually I made the decision that I needed to try and move on from sweetheart and shortly after that is when I met my significant other. And then last week he started paying more attention to me … which fits the normal pattern every time I start to really think about our relationship and if I should just do what I feel is right for me and end things my significant other does a and starts treating me the way I have always longed to be treated.
Especially since he has come back into my life. I love Sweetheart I always have we just have never had the chance to be together. And I know Sweetheart loves me as he has told me a few times since coming back into my life. Which brings us to tonight. Sweetheart proposed to me. I know that hurt Sweetheart and I hated hurting him like that. Any advice is appreciated. I stopped seeing the other woman without explanation. Something was wrong with me and no one could figure out what!
I went to bed and spent the next 18 yrs in bed fighting for my life. My wife has done absolutely nothing wrong! Thoughts of the other woman are eating at me. I went on Facebook and found her. She has 2 adult daughters. The man she was married to, is engaged to another woman. So I assume she is divorced. I messaged her on Facebook, no reply. Shortly thereafter her page was taken down. I know her home address and phone number.
I want to send her a real letter,on paper and in an envelope. I really want to know about her journey in life thus far, possibly reacquainting ourselves or developing a friendship. Is all of this crazy? What kind of trouble could I get myself into? These feelings to see her are tearing me apart! My husband starting talking to an acquaintance from high school in Feb It has quickly escalated into an emotional affair. She is jealous of me yet when I try to make them see each other she lives 6 hours away and is married too Unhappily supposedly she told my husband he is her soul mate sends him inspirational messages everyday.
My husband says he is in love with her but loves me and never intended to leave. She says it would tear her heart apart if he left his children. I dont know what to do. She says she is a woman of Jesus on her Facebook. She wont let him go. My husband says he loves me but wont look me in the eye and yes we still have sex.
He used to be such a good man. Please I need advice. First, an affair with an ex, even emotional, is a different animal. Find it, and maybe it can help. We each move through three major phases in life. My husband and I have been married only a little over a year. He was 25 when we got married and I was only a month away from turning We only dated 9 months before getting engaged and waited another 9 months before getting married.
In hind-sight we rushed it. I never really felt a burning passion for my husband and never really expected to. He was and is someone I look up to and ultimately feel comfortable with. The problem is and I have talked andthiught through these feelings a hundred times and every time they get more and more confusing …I have two guys who love me deeply …one of whom I care for , but I feel is holding me back from a lot of things I want to do in my life though he tries to support them and the other?
I need him in my life … But the only way he wants to be in my life is as my husband …he really has been trying.. I am a hard worker, smart, detail oriented and a successful person.
This created an enemy for me at work and caused it to be horrible as he is a manipulator and used to effect on peoples opinions about me, until I met him. We have lots of common, in our core values, but he is married and I took him as a friend.
I was happy to be able to be his friend and for 2 years we were, until I got engaged! My x guy now, was bad news and I end up ending it, after 11 months. I was emotionally hurt, broken, exhausted and it was horrible. On top of that, my friend, took a step back and was away. I was deeply hurt by his distance but I thought he is giving me a space. I honestly had a thing for him since ever, but I never look at married men! It is a no situation.
Now after broken my engagement slowly my friend came back and I welcomed him.. He then chose to tell me he loves me. I see it, the process you talk about in ALL.. I told him he has a wife and kids, a family he said was always enough and he was accepting life and happy with it. It created a huge problem for me and at times I became weak and told him I had feelings too. In a way his love, made be heal better, but it also hurt me a lot.
We were platonic, not even flirting but the comfort and level of connection we had, made me feel bad. I told him we have to face it, this is NOT good. I know we did nothing wrong but say: He also was regretting telling me big times. We have a great friendship and we can be blunt, totally honest and still love each other. I do want to help him and I am actually glad I can see it, heal my wounds and say finally he is not the man of my life and though I love him a lot, though I would take him if he was single, he is not and I am not going there.
We are still friends, good ones but how I will know he is not still doing it wrong? I am a positive person and I love caring and giving, naturally. I know he can have it all!
I should say at times I believed he is my other half, we are different but totally the same. He still says I complete him and we have this huge level of understanding. It is like we have the same core, in two personality and when we were friends I used to joke, we must be twins!
I have been dating a married man for about 2 weeks now. His wife is not nice. A couple weeks ago I met a married man on one of the online dating sites. I was interested in him because we had a lot in common.
Dating a married man is hard. He whips out his wallet to pay for something and I look down and see a photo of his wife tucked into his wallet. You can imagine how that feels. Spending a few hours on one day with him at a time and cherishing the few moments you have, all the while he goes home to someone I am finally realizing that I am drawn to married men.
On some level I choose them. I used to think that it was just bad luck or a curse that I attracted all the married men, but have since realized that the common denominator is me, not all these married men. So two days ago he told his soon to be ex wife that he was going to ask me out on a date.
But he said he was asking anyway and then she gave him ideas where to take me. But dabbling in the world of cheating within cheating? He cheated on me with his previous mistress? Lmao what was I thinking? And he thinks I My previous story explained how I met and fell in love with a married man. Now I want to explain us I want to take his pain away, make his life better. He kisses me softly, touches my hair, holds me until I just held a grown man as he cried thinking about not seeing his little girl every day.
He is such a good daddy. We see each other almost everyday now. I kept my jealousy at bay and try to think first why i should be angry at him. Even if they will have another family outing tomorrow. Im thinking why would i get angry with him when I too have an mm. I do not want more, I like that I have my own life and he has his. Meet The Wife Night Well, what is there to say. I awoke from a dead sleep to my phone going off He said, "Are you ready?
By the way her Honestly, this has been the best time of my life. I really thought I had met someone special. I am dating my mm again for a few months now. He said he cant bear the spectacle of losing me. But last night when his wife didnt text him and looked for him, he looked so anxious.
Kept checking his phone until 2am until he left. And this morning i saw his text with her, there is a kiss icon from the We were friends for 6 years before becoming "close" friends. We were in a group together. I knew his wife and children as well. His wife hated me for years which I guess made it easier. I was single, lonely, and bored. People have found different reasons for dating across board, most of them we may not find noble from our perspective, but believe me, they are needful.
All other impressions are mere sentiments. As a single girl, no law protects you differently whether your partner is single or not. Know what is good for you, clearly spell out what you intend to achieve or gain from a relationship to enable you get to your dream next level.
If the man or woman cannot offer it, then move to the next one. If sexual faithfulness is our yardstick for measuring successful relationship, then we fail, perhaps why America continuously fails. Couples stay together in developing countries despite polygamy and many cases of sexual infidelity, because they focus on the needful. I hope it turns out well.. You are in a sad situation. My question to you is, when has he done this before?
Was it before you married him? Raise your standards and show her it is not acceptable. Chances are, if he has a relationship on the side 7 months into your marriage, what will he be doing after 10 years?
Am begining to love him that much but the fact that he is married tears me apart because i do not want to date a married man. The only advice i can give u is to mentally prepare to be hurt because it will all end in tears, ur man is being very selfish by not choosing between the two of u as is mine, in a way maybe we should be more strong and delete their numbers and erase them from our lives, easier said than done tho hey?
It is easier said than done from a bystander with lack of knowledge of a situation and very easy to criticize. I have been in a situation for about 9 months now where a married man has fallen in love with me. He knows this and understands but has no intention of giving me up. He thinks I am his soul mate. At this point, he has 2 choices. He stays married and we stay friends or he gets divorced. I honestly love him, as well, and thought he was just lusting at first but now I think differently.
I am seeing someone else but would leave him in a heartbeat if my friend ever got a divorce. So why would you drop your man in a heartbeat for this man who is cheating? You think the cheating ends with you huh? I do feel sorry for you. All of you hoes need to get a life all you are is the 2nd lady does that make you feel good.. I am a wife of a man whos cheating we have problems like all couples but stillvery much in love we talk about thinks other than the kids and have sex everyday hes just a man thats it the woman new he was married and didnt walk away what does that say about her dirty….
U said she was desperate enough to get pregnant! Um hiw about your husband slept with her raw enough and got her pregnant! Hell always cgeat on uou. Youll always blame the other girl and you sound slow. Please leave him along, and go on with your life.
Know did it for 5year… wast of times years past by for me to fine love. You just went through hurt and pain. If you get involved with this married man trust you will be walking yourself down a road to experience more hurt and pain. If you love him and he loves you then tell him when and only when you divorce will I consider being with you. Even tho there are cheaters from both sexes, it seems that men cheat more with single women.
Can some married men chime in here and give us your prospective? I am currently having an affair with a married man and I would love to hear some insight. We eventually decided to just be friends and we remained so for many years, sharing deepest secrets with one another, and helping each other through different stages in life.
He eventually married and had 3 children, and I had a daughter. I met his wife when they were still dating and they both invited me to their wedding, although I declined. We lost touch for about 4 years. We recently reunited about 6 months ago. I had just gone through a horrific break-up, and I learned that his marriage was in shambles.
We began talking daily, then daily turned into all day everyday! He convinced me to meet up with him. He came to my place and I knew then that our connection had moved beyond that of just friends. He looked better than I remembered, we were both more mature, and more attracted to each other than ever before.
We met up a few more times, and eventually the inevitable happened: The emotional connection and the forbidden aspect of the affair added to the actual 4-star performance left me utterly weak. After the sex, I felt incredibly guilty as a woman, mother, etc. Why not just put everything on the table?? I would never do this without his consent, but I know eventually, this will end badly for one of us anyway.
We love each other having reconnected after 38 years. We were high school sweethearts. We have not had sex since reconnecting. We are both married. I want a divorce. He wants to wait for the wife to leave him because he is too afraid to leave and worries about losing respect de his children. It is frustrating doe both of us.
I recommend you seek a reading from a psychic. And Possibly engage in a spell. Do not ever call him again but cheerfully take all his calls. Tell him you love him. It will become clear to you if this relationship will ever be possible.
I personally would limit the relationship to phone calls and FaceTime. Try to grow the relationship with just that. The axe is damaging to the soul if you are not married to eachother bg ong to the soul.
I believe you do love him and cared for him even before and he the same for you at one time or another. I believe you both just did what you wanted to years ago and found a reason to do it now.
That right there is key to me that he is lying to you and still loves and is in love with his wife. You are his side chick. You are wrong to think that you should reveal what you and he are doing to his wife. How would she not? She is his wife they have a bond and connection that will allow her to know. Stop the affair and go date single men. You are looking at your past and what you and this man had together and how you felt back then and you are using and bringing those past feelings into what you have done today to make it feel some kind of right because you are trying to recapture a memory a feeling of what once existed between you two.
That was 17 years ago. So now you have sex today exactly what you wanted 17 years ago but never did do. Trust you need to move on and start dating single men and let this man go back to his wife and work out their problems and tell him when he has divorced his wife then come look you up. He will never divorce her. All you are going to do is leave a whole lot of pain in your path.
You must have been cheated on by your husband and I feel sad for you. The man who does the lying and cheating is truly the cause of the entire situation.
Again, the husband initiates the outside fling. That is, IF they even tell you they are married. At the end of the day, it gripes my ass that the wife normally gets mad at the other woman, but gives her husband a pass. And, then when he finally tells her, she has been swept away in all the bliss and lies thinking he will leave his wife.
How about when a single woman keeps pursuing a married man? What if she is so proud of it? Yes the husband is cheating but what about these women who will keep doing it? What if the girl just came up to him and started kissing him. What if she proudly admits this? Im in a similar situation involved with a married man i met him when I was 15 and he was 26 now I am 20 and he is nearly I try to keep away but Its just not working.
If I move on with any other single guy Id feel hurt and emptiness n lost well thats wt married man says. In his eyes if i be the good little side kick i will benefit and have him. Do not comment if your going to judge. He has no control over what you do or decide to do with your life. You are giving and allowing him the control. Until you are strong and willing to move on you will continue to be his side chick. One day you will come to the realization that you have wasted years with a man who is not yours and probably will never be yours.
You will realize and probably say what was I thinking all those years. He has the best of both worlds. No life in that honey. Whenever and however it does ends trust you heart will ache and you will cry for days because you love him and have built your world around him and his lies. He has used words to keep you there as his side chick.
He has manipulated your mind. I have been married for 19 years and together longer. I found out my husband was cheating on me with a coworker mostly long phone calls and lots of text messages! He never went out on weekends or stayed out at night. When I found out I was devastated that he was not even the person I thought he was! I would have respected him more if he would have left me first before he cheated. I stayed with him because he is trying so hard to be a better husband.
We go out on date nights and have gone away on vacations at couples resorts and have had the best sex ever and are more in love than we were for a very long time! Personally I feel destroyed, low self esteem very anxious and I have had some melt downs. I think anyone that goes out with a married man is a stupid fool who thinks nothing of themselves! Truly you would only get hurt and I have to say in my younger days it would have been worse and I would have never stayed and he would have been left with nothing.
We have all forgiven him but not really! So to the other woman you have ruined a family in so many ways and I can only hope that in the turmoil we can grow! It takes two to tangle and put the blame where it belongs. You married women crack me up with that bull.
Always ready to blame the other woman instead of your cheating unhappy husband. Why do women always remove themselves from the equation? Absolutely, marriage is between a husband and a wife. However, that does not negate your awful behavior.
You do not owe anything to that woman but you owe yourself some respect. Wives blame their husbands and these husbands have to endure years of drama in am attempt to mend their marriage. So they get much more blame than the other woman. If you were unhappy, chances are he was too. Sounds like he is really remorseful about it and trying his utmost best to make up for it but you wont let it go.
You are licking the cream from the saucer but still determined to pour bitter venom into every aspect of this event sort of as a wound you dont want healed because it serves you to play victim. Get some professional help or you will destroy whatever is left of a marriage that yout hubby is trying his best to make up to you with. Do you not know how he is suffering too? That pain has absolutely no power whereas yours, yours has a payback. Do yourself a favour and learn what it means to forgive because only you are holding onto a poison inside that will slowly kill you, him, the marriage….
It is worthless love. Never mind that he lied about everything and I believed him. The town I live in is misogynistic and being a woman who was involved with a married man requires a scarlet letter. Never mind that I had no idea the reality. Your guard has to be up constantly. Not just men, all people. My liar happened to be a man and he crushed me in the end. Going through that now and I cry everyday. I am absolutely heartbroken. It has changed the core of me, my beliefs and my sense of self.
I have 3 amazing kids and have been divorced for 10 years. I dedicated my life to them. They started pressing me to date I met this creep who decided to lie to me for 10 mos about being married and when i doubted him he did really great at trying to make me think I was crazy.
I am beyond words. I lock myself in my closet and cry daily and it just wont stop. The lies, mind games, even met all his brothers.. I am a mom of 3 and I am so hurt, so humiliated. I have been divorced 11 years, same thing. My kids are my life. Crying in front of them. Lost total sense of self. Shaking from the inside out and tears that wont stop. He played so many mind games with me he was making me think I was crazy for not trusting him. How could he do that to me, her, himself?
My kids also wanted me to start dating. I finally had no choice but to expose it to get over this. Its tearing me up in every way. I am hurt, he is hurt and I am quite sure his wife and child is hurt. I cannot function for the pain. I have called my pastor for help and I am breathing as much as I can.
I feel guilt for what i have done to her. But like you he lied. I guess my purpose now is to find out how and why I was so easily deceived. He knew about my x husband and the abuse i suffered as a result and totally used that against me to make me feel crazy and like I was broken. Please pray for me for this overwhelming sadness and broken heart to ease up just a little. My ribs are sore from the crying and my heart just aches.
And I still miss him. I miss the lies and broken promises. Blame your husbands, not the other woman! Being a mistress is frustrating, degrading, confusing, lonely, and the dishonesty is overwhelming. Women are smart, but our emotions always get the best of us…and they can truly cause us to self destruct in these situations.
Sit back and think about how scummy a disloyal married man is. Why would you even want that garbage? I too am guilty of being the mistress.. He never promised me anything.
Never said he was leaving her. Although, he said he was unhappy. I never got dates or flowers or gifts, not even on a special occassion. But in his conversations he led me to believe that I was important to him. He couldnt understand why he hadnt met me sooner. He was the sweetest kindest thing. We saw each other about once a month and that was me practically begging him. I feel like such a doormat.
I bought him gifts. And for some reason I cant bare the thought that he wont want to be with me. I am in the same situation except i work with the man and we often see each other outside of work but only for sex. No perks, no dates. I too feel like such a doormat bc i also treat him to gifts and i hate it.
Many times i have tried to move forward by dating and meeting other people. Ive even tried online dating to get out of my comfort zone in hopes of liking someone else. The thought of him finding another side girl also bothers me for some reason, i hate it. Its become an addiction. Call it what you want. Completely empathize with you! Many women are pathetic.
If the man you want is married go get him or leave him alone and go settle for someone else. A woman sleeping with a married man is not the issue. Same thing can happen with a single man. Been there, seen it. I am a 65 year old widow. When I was 31 I started an affair with a younger man by 7 years. I had 2 children. It lasted for 13 years and in between he was married, divorced and then remarried and had a daughter who is now a teenager. I saw him after she was born maybe once or twice.
Then 4and a half years ago my husband died, the guy heard, called me and after a few months started seeing each other. He is clearly happy with his life, but continues to regularly phone and visit when it is very safe for him. He makes the calls and I only call if I miss the call. I never call him. Everything is very safe for him.
I am feeling a lot stupid.!!!! He is a long haul truck driver…. I am still fighting for my life and now my world has been turned on its head. My kids are almost adults and they no longer respect their father. Her husband is his bestfriend… he doesnt know about anything.
They have also been married for over 20yrs. Just at a loss for words. I fell out of love and no matter hoe hard i try i can never love him the way i did before. Wished he had the balls to at least end our marriage before screwing someone else.. I know in my heart he was happy with me and we had a great family now why would he do such thing and now regrets it and wants our family to be whole again.. Women do it too. Either way it hurts.
When she was 26 and single, he was 41 married with kids. She, a dietician right ou of university. He was an accomplished Endocrinologist. They had to work together and it happened for five years til she decided to go back to university to get her MBA. Distance and time kept them apart for almost 10 years but when she moved back closer, there he was looking to have her back.
She was basically his whore. I discovered all this after we had been together for nearly five years and had a child together. Who wins and who loses here? All in all I feel pretty crappy about it. You sound like a chump. Who c ares what she did before you?!?!?!?
You think she was an innocent virgin? I do not need to be judged by strangers who do not know me. I always find myself being the other woman, whether it is intentional or not.
But I ended up becoming very emotionally involved with one guy who had a girlfriend, we started off as friends nothing more, but suddenly we became something more. This went on for 3 years, his girlfriend found out and they broke up twice but no matter how hard we both tried we kept gravitating towards each other. Now recently … I ended up sleeping with a married man and I just feel no emotion about it, not even guilt.
Seems like no one wants to get to know me. Just some insight would be nice. I know what I am, and like i said I feel no emotion about it.
I recently met a man who I thought was perfect. I tried, but found myself going back to him. You are always the other woman because you do not see your own value.
You are worth more than you believe. I have the same problem. Welcome to hell on earth for your bleeding heart. I do not see my own value yet to people around me I seem so together and grounded. And if I am cheated on? What does that reveal about me.
Life reflects whether you like it or not. Time to brush off the details that are just distractions and truly ask your higher self for guidance. From what I can tell, you offer men your companionship and body without first requiring their devotion and commitment to you. People like to say nowadays that waiting to be physically intimate is old fashioned and passe, but women of older generations understood men in a way that women today do not.
You need to filter these men according to their intentions toward you. Getting involved and then wondering where it might go is no way to be. If, instead, you first wait to see if they are after you for something serious, whether they will wait because they are truly into you and not just what gratification you can offer them in the moment, you will soon see that those who are just after a good time will remove themselves from your life and those who are about more than that will stick around.
Well unaware as I was at the time, I married a serial cheater. He appeared for so many years to be my perfect match, but lied to me from the get go. When we were both in our mid thirties with three fast growing daughters, the sob cheated on me again, having an affair with a woman in her early twenties who was the mother of a seven and a half year old son. All I know at that time was that my husband started behaving badly towards me, as he had done once during our engagement period.
I put that down to the cold feet syndrome, and he came back to me a month later. Of course he stopped me from leaving by throwing all my packing onto the floor, smashing a wardrobe door with his fist. Later the cheating started again via the Internet for nine long years. In that time the sex slowed down to silch, and I became sicker. You see some time previous my husband had infected me and I landed up with PID and well the rest is history. Still it was only when I finally caught him having cybersex did I realise what my husband really was.
My Deep Love for him absolutely blinded me to the truth of it. They manipulate and control their spouses with their filthy black hearts.
Any woman that takes on a married man, needs to be pitied for her self esteem is most of the time, really low. She will take what ever attention she can get, and to hell with the wife and family of her new man. Men rarely leave their wives for the bit on the side.
I should know as my husband stayed with me for almost fifty years while he led a double life.. The man does not know how to give True Love to another. We started as friends about three years ago.
I knew he was married and I let him know I would not get involved because I respect the institute of marriage. But as I learned more about him I realized that he was in a marriage that he never wanted in the first place.
He just never got out of it when he should have. Now it would be even more complicated than our relationship. I struggle every day with loving him. I have no right to. He tells her where he is when he is with me. I have to make the decision to end it. I deserve to be treated better. I know it will be painful but it will end soon because I will end it.
Maybe I have thought having him sometimes is better than not at all. Boy was I wrong. I understand how you feel believe me it will be one of the hardest things that you have to do. But it is worth you giving yourself a chance. I found out that the guy that I was with was married by doing a background check on him.
You have NO idea what goes on in the home. This guy keeps going on me. You dont know im talking about. And it is VERY common. Never once have we went from one woman to another and then bragged on this trash. Look at your language…you are clearly hurt by something or someone.
Apparently time has not healed all wounds. I am sick for telling the truth. You only know what they tell you. Yes it is nasty, do you not see all the pathetic comments from people on this thread? And which one of you men would brag about that nasty shit?! I am hurt, nasty, immature whatever you wanna call it. You must not know this world. I find it funny that women like you will destroy a man or woman who cheats while married, but have nothing to say about women and men who begin having sex at Truth is …Marriage is a tax break, not some bs holy matrimony.
Well I guess almighty Jesus forgives all…. I absolutely never said that a single or dating woman who sleeps with multiple men are respectable. I am talking about cheating. Everyone makes mistakes, I am no better than someone. All I am saying is that clearly people all on this thread are hurting themselves! And then expect something else! My entire rant was about respecting yourself and others. Men cheating on women, women cheating on men, all of that nonsense.
Yes we make mistakes but we cannot keeps making these bad choices and expecting GOOD to come out of it. I know people cheat. Would you like your daughter to be sleeping with him? Even if she made that mistake I seriously doubt that you would encourage her to continue that life. Again I am saying to stop the nasty behavior.
The fact that people cheat? But we can move on from it right? Yes if we rectify our behavior. What sense does it make to keep cheating? Would it be okay if your wife was doing it? Or just have an open relationship.
At least that way everyone is in the know and thus they are agreeing to take the risk of increased STDs.
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